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  • "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." ~W. Churchill

Monday, April 13, 2009

Springtime!

The sun is shining, the songbirds are singing, and the flowers are in bloom...Spring has sprung! Here are some Spring-inspired shots from my neck of the woods for you all to enjoy!


Forsythia



Tulips



Hyacinths


And some happy Daffodils!


Wishing you lots of sunshine and joy this Spring!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Appetizers

Looking for an update on my crazy weekend? Well, here is a little taste to tide you over. I will post more in the coming days, but for now need to catch up on some sleep! So, while I'm off to Slumberland...here are some pics for you to enjoy!


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Expect more pics & stories from the weekend, including some great shots of Brazil's Guilherme Marchi, Big Tex, Chicken on a Chain, and Idaho's own Wiley Peterson! Stayed tuned...

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Psych Series #5: Anger & Aggression (Positive or Negative?)


Psych Series #5

What comes to mind when you hear the terms anger or angry? Do you picture a positive outcome or negative outcome to a situation that involves anger? Many people when faced with these questions may automatically focus on the negative aspects of the emotion anger. But, there is an upside to an angry emotional state. Hopefully this will help you identify the positives and negatives to anger & aggression.

Let's start out with some definitions!

Anger:
  • "A strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance"
  • "Belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong"
  • "A normal, healthy emotion that serves as a warning signal and alerts us to potential threat or trauma." (Townsend, 2003).
Aggression:
  • "The act of initiating hostilities or invasion"
  • "The practice or habit of launching attacks"
  • "Hostile or destructive behavior or actions"
  • "...a behavior intended to threaten or injure the victim's security or self-esteem." (Warren, 1990).
  • Warren (1990) also states: "Whether the damage is caused by words, fists, or weapons, the behavior is virtually always designed to punish. It is frequently accompanied by bitterness, meanness, and ridicule."
According to Townsend (2003), anger becomes a problem when it is not expressed and when it is expressed aggressively. (p.245) Violence results when a person loses control of his/her anger. So, how does one determine if they are expressing anger in a positive or negative way?

Predisposing factors to anger/aggression:
  • Modeling: Children learn how to express anger by modeling the expressions of parents, primary caregivers, or significant others.
  • Operant Conditioning: Reinforcement of a specific behavior. This can be through positive or negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement produces a pleasurable or desired result. Negative reinforcement prevents an undesirable result from occurring.
  • Neurophysiological Disorders: Traumatic brain injuries, brain tumors, and diseases like encephalitis have been predisposing factors to aggression and violent behaviors.
  • Biochemical Factors: Hormonal dysfunction in endocrine disorders such as Cushing's disease or hyperthyroidism have been associated with increased violent tendencies.
  • Socioeconomic Factors: Impoverished populations may have a higher rate of violence related to lack of resources, broken family relationships, alienation, discrimination, and frustrations.
  • Environmental Factors: Increased temperatures, physical crowding (overcrowding), and drug & alcohol use/abuse have also been implicated in contributing to aggressive behavior patterns.
Signs & Symptoms - How will someone appear or act when in an angry or aggressive state?

Anger
  • Intense distress
  • Frowning
  • Pacing
  • Clenched fists
  • Fatigue
  • Withdrawal
  • Increased energy
  • Emotional overcontrol
  • Change in tone of voice (yelling, shouting, lowered tone spoken through clenched teeth)
Aggression
  • Sarcasm
  • Verbal or physical threats
  • Change in tone of voice (raised/quavering tone, pitch, rapid/hesitant speech)
  • Degrading comments
  • Pacing
  • Invasion of personal space
  • Increased agitation or irritability
  • Misinterpretation of stimuli
  • Anger disproportionate to an event
  • Throwing or striking objects or people
So, for all of you "negative Nancys" out there...how is anger used in a negative way?
  • Can result in impulsive behavior (without thinking about negative consequences to actions)
  • Conflict may escalate and the problem initially creating the conflict goes unresolved.
  • A coping response of displaced anger may lead to aggression.
  • May create exaggerated feelings of control & the individual may try to use that "power" to intimidate others.
  • May mask true feelings, weakness, self-esteem leading to hostility and rage.
What about all the "positive Petes" out there...how can anger be a positive emotion?
  • Can energize & mobilize body for self-defense purposes. (Fight or Flight Response)
  • In an assertive way, can promote conflict resolution.
  • Signals threat or injustice against the "self" and elicits coping responses to help deal with the distress.
  • Assists with providing feelings of control in a situation & helps an individual assertively take charge of a situation.
  • Can create positive outcomes when expressed assertively, increasing self-esteem and leading to mutual understanding and forgiveness.
So the next time you are faced with anger, whether your own or someone else's, ask yourself "is this positive or negative?" Is it a healthy response to a perceived threat or is it a destructive, ineffective coping mechanism? A little patience and understanding go a long way in a negative situation. And keep in mind that you can catch more bees with honey that you can with vinegar!

Here's to healthy, happy and positively angry people everywhere!

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Blue October

Blue October Pictures, Images and Photos


Tickets to Blue October Private Label X-session: Free (won by my hubby!)

Cost of gas to drive to X Studio: Less than $1.00


Live serenade, meet & greet, & photo-op with Blue October (a band that totally ROCKS & has a special place in my heart FOREVER): PRICELESS


That's right folks, I got to meet & get serenaded by Blue October! And it was AMAZING! If you have never heard of these guys...you have been living under a rock or have just really missed out on life for awhile. This group, originally from Texas, formed in 1995 and has been rocking out to very original music ever since. With their eclectic tastes in music & variety of sounds, instruments & vocals, they have been impressing audiences around nation. Their lyrics are heartfelt, deep down & gritty, focusing on personal experiences of the band members. This isn't the kind of group that is going to be putting music out there just to make a buck or two. Songs such as "Hate Me" are raw and real. (The album version includes an actual voicemail recording from lead singer Justin's & drummer Jeremy's mom.) Topics include everything from mental health issues, broken relationships, and crappy business managers to letting go of the anger and getting healthier physically, emotionally & spiritually. Expect some open and honest lyrical poetry from these guys. And their live performances are nothing to ignore! If you ever get the chance to see these guys live...don't miss it!



Thursday, March 26, 2009

"I Spy With My Little Eye..."

Shawn Binoculars Pictures, Images and Photos
...something that begins with S.
A "welcome back" to all you stalkers out there!

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Voyages

oh, the places you'll go Pictures, Images and Photos

"Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen,
don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along.
You'll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on your way up!
You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you'll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don't
Because, sometimes, you won't.

I'm sorry to say so
but, sadly, it's true
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump,
you're not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
So you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You'll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't.
Because, sometimes, they won't.

I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you'll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!

~Dr. Seuss

Here's to happiness & safe travels!

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Happy Saint Patrick's Day!

Happy ST Patricks Day Pictures, Images and Photos

Hope you are all enjoying this festive day!

Here are some fun activities to participate in for this March holiday:
  • Watch some Irish step dancing (or try it out for yourself)
Irish Dance Pictures, Images and Photos
  • Have some Green beer
Green Beer Pictures, Images and Photos
  • Drink a Guinness (mmm....the only acceptable beer for an Irishman)
Guiness Pictures, Images and Photos
  • Eat a bowl of Lucky Charms (they're magically delicious!)
lucky charms Pictures, Images and Photos

  • Listen to some Irish pub music, such as:
    • Sleepy Maggie
    • Whiskey In The Jar
    • Mari-Mac
    • The Night Pat Murphy Died
    • Drunken Sailor
    • The Wild Rover
    • Seven Drunken Nights
    • The Rocky Road To Dublin
    • When Irish Eyes Are Smiling
    • Danny Boy
    • I'm A Rover

bagpipe Pictures, Images and Photos

Whatever you are doing today, remember to have tons 'o fun. Here's to the luck 'o the Irish!