Vix's Views

Psych Series #10

2011-01-07T12:31:00.011-07:00

Psych Series #10: Hierarchy of Needs

Welcome back to Psych Series! We will begin this year with another topic from Psych 101. First let's define the concept of mental health. What is mental health? According to the American Psychiatric Association, mental health is the "simultaneous success at working, loving,k and creating with the capacity for mature and flexible resolution of conflicts between instincts, conscience, important other people and reality (APA, 1980)." Another way to view mental health is "the successful adaptation to stressors from the internal or external environment, evidenced by thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are age-appropriate and congruent with local and cultural norms (Townsend, 2003)."

What motivates us to strive for balance in our mental health? Abraham Maslow created a theory describing a "hierarchy of needs" that suggests that our most basic needs must be met before we, as humans, desire or are motivated to seek "the realization of his or her highest potential (Maslow, 1970)." The following are characteristics Maslow believed "healthy" and "self-actualized" people possess:

An appropriate perception of reality
The ability to accept oneself, others, and human nature
The ability to manifest spontaneity
The capacity for focusing concentration on problem solving
A need for detachment and desire for privacy
Independence, autonomy, and a resistance to enculturation
An intensity of emotional reaction
A frequency of "peak" experiences that validates the worthwhileness, richness, and beauty of life
An identification with humankind
The ability to achieve satisfactory interpersonal relationships
A democratic character structure and strong sense of ethics
Creativeness
A degree of nonconformance

How do we reach a stage of self-actualization? Maslow's hierarchy of needs is best depicted in the form of a pyramid. We all begin at the base of the pyramid with meeting the most basic needs and progress toward the top as we develop. Depending on life circumstances, we may reverse our position in the hierarchy from a higher to a lower level. Below is a depiction of Maslow's hierarchy:

Physiological - These include our most basic fundamental needs such as food, water, air, sleep, exercise, elimination, shelter, and sexual expression.

Safety (and Security) - The needs in this level are avoiding harm, maintaining comfort, order, structure, physical safety, freedom from fear, and protection.

Social (or Love and Belonging) - These needs are for giving and receiving of affection, companionship, satisfactory interpersonal relationships, and identification with a group.

Esteem (Self-Esteem, Esteem of Others) - Individuals seek self-respect and respect from others, works to achieve success and recognition in work, and desires prestige from accomplishments.

Self-actualization - The individual possesses a feeling of self-fulfillment and the realization of his or her highest potential.

Maslow theorizes that during our progression through the hierarchy, if our needs are not met, we feel tension and anxiety.

So, where are you on the hierarchy pyramid? Have you reached self-actualization? Are you still working diligently on creating a solid base? No matter what stage you are at on your path to mental wellness, remember it's a journey! Our experiences shape who we are and help us to learn along the way. Good luck with your journey! May it lead you to peace, love, and happiness in this new year!

Happy New Year!

2011-01-02T14:03:00.000-07:00

2010-12-31T00:56:00.002-07:00

Who Makes You Feel
~Dido~

I don't touch you the way I used to
I don't call and write when I'm away
We don't make love as often as we did do
What couldn't wait now waits and usually goes away

But listen and think when I say it
Oh but listen and think when I say it
Who makes you feel the way that I make you feel
Who loves you and knows you the way I do
Who touches you and holds you quite like I do
Who makes you feel like I make you feel

I don't mind if you come home late
I don't ever ask where you've been
I just assume if there's a problem you will tell me

But listen and think when I say it
Oh but listen and think when I say it
Who makes you feel the way that I make you feel
Who loves you and knows you the way I do
Who touches you and holds you quite like I do
Who makes you feel like I make you feel
Who makes you feel like I make you feel
Who makes you feel like I make you feel

Being weak when I am strong
Being seen, who you are
Being sad and love's not alone

But listen and think when I say it
Oh but listen and think when I say it
Who makes you feel the way that I make you feel
Who loves you and knows you the way I do
Who touches you and holds you quite like I do
Who makes you feel like I make you feel

2010-10-08T05:25:00.009-06:00

It's October already?! Well to make up for a missed month of posts...here are some cute & funnyz to enjoy!

~Peace, Love & Happiness~

Psych Series #9

2010-08-15T03:44:00.003-06:00

Psych Series #9: Stages of Personality Development

This week's 'Psych Series' is taking us back to the good ole college days of Psych 101. There are several theoretical models of personality development that we could review. Today I have chosen to bring you Sullivan's Interpersonal Theory.

Sullivan initially followed Freud and his intrapersonal view. He later developed his own theoretical framework based on interpersonal relationships. Sullivan's model spans from infancy through late adolescence and describes the major developmental tasks humans must accomplish during each stage. Happy reading and keep an eye out for more developmental theories and Psych 101 refreshers coming soon!

Sullivan's Stages of Personality Development

Infancy: Birth to 18 Months
Major Developmental Task:

Gratification of needs - this is accomplished through such activities as crying, nursing, and thumb sucking.

Childhood: 18 Months to 6 Years
Major Developmental Task:

Learning to experience a delay in personal gratification without undue anxiety - this is accomplished using tools including the mouth, the anus, language, experimentation, manipulation, and identification

Juvenile: 6 To 9 Years
Major Developmental Task:

Forming satisfactory relationships within peer groups - this is accomplished using competition, cooperation, and compromise.

Preadolescence: 9 To 12 Years
Major Developmental Task:

Developing relationships with persons of the same sex - this stage is where we learn to initiate feelings of affection for another person and show love.

Early Adolescence: 12 To 14 Years
Major Developmental Task(s):

Developing a sense of identity that is separate and independent from parents
Forming satisfactory relationships with members of the opposite sex - biological changes and the emergence of lust occur during this stage

Late Adolescence: 14 To 21 Years
Major Developmental Task(s):

Establishing self-identity or interdependence within society
Experiencing satisfying relationships
Working to develop a lasting, intimate relationship with a member of the opposite sex

Sullivan based his theory on the belief that all behavior is aimed at relieving or preventing anxiety. He believed that fulfilling all requirements in a person's physicochemical environment (oxygen, food, warmth, tenderness, rest, activity, water, sexual expression, etc) led to the satisfaction of needs. When a person has all needs met, Sullivan believed there was an overall sense of total well-being and interpersonal security. Sullivan identified what he called the 'self-system', a collection of experiences individuals use to protect against anxiety. Within this system, Sullivan identified three components:

"Good Me" - personality that develops in response to positive feedback from the primary caregiver. Individuals experience feelings of pleasure, contentment, and gratification.
"Bad Me" - personality that develops in response to negative feedback from the primary caregiver. Individuals experience feelings of anxiety leading to discomfort, displeasure, and distress.
"Not Me" - personality that develops in response to situations that produce intense anxiety. Individuals experience feelings of horror, awe, dread, and loathing. These feelings in turn lead to the child denying the feelings in order to relieve anxiety, thus becoming "not me." This type of withdrawal from emotions may lead to mental disorders in adult life.

By using the concepts of Sullivan's theory, we can assist individuals to achieve a higher degree of independent and interpersonal functioning.

As always, wishing you all peace, love and happiness! Look for more Psych 101 refreshers and theoretical models coming soon!

2010-07-06T17:45:00.003-06:00

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.

~ 1 Corinthians 13 (excerpt)

Wishing you all Peace, LOVE, and Happiness!

Artistic X-rays

2010-05-20T18:25:00.008-06:00

I have been mesmerized by Dutch artist/photographer, Albert Koetsier, who has perfected x-rays as art. Here are some samples of his work & work he inspired...enjoy!

Wishing you all peace, love & happiness!

Passing the Torch

2010-05-17T13:17:00.003-06:00

With a huge sigh of relief, I pass the torch onto the next lucky lady! Today marks the last day of my appointment scheduling duties for work...and I couldn't be more relieved! It has definitely been a mammoth project. I've enjoyed it for the most part, but with changes in staffing, shifts, and responsibility, it was definitely time to donate this project to someone else...more available during "regular business hours." Congrats to S.V. on her "promotion" to scheduler! Much luck to her (she'll do great). I start this next chapter with plans for an updated pharmacy, improved supply maintenance and alterations to the basic department layout. Big changes ahead....can't wait! Here's to the next chapter!

Wishing you all peace, love, & happiness!

Psych Series #8

2010-05-08T07:41:00.003-06:00

Psych Series #8: Psychogenic Non-Epileptic Seizure (PNES)

Recently we have noticed an increase in the number of medical emergencies we are responding to at work for "seizure activity." A friend said to me the other day, "How can there be so many people having seizures in one facility? In my entire life, I've only known one person who had a seizure, yet you are seeing these girls have them on an almost daily basis!!" In response, I have chosen to bring you all some general information on epileptic and non-epileptic seizure disorders. Happy reading!

What is a seizure? In general a seizure is "a temporary loss of control, often with abnormal movements, unconsciousness, or both." Epileptic seizures are caused by "a sudden, abnormal electrical discharge from the brain." Other causes of seizures can include brain injury, alcohol withdrawal, extremely high fever, lead poisoning, infections involving the brain, brain tumors, or withdrawal from certain medications.

Epileptic Seizures

Can be caused by any process that disrupts the stability of the neuronal cell membrane.
Involves 3 classifications - genetic, acquired, or idiopathic.
Seizures are also classified according to age of onset, cause, area of origin in the brain, EEG abnormalities, and clinical symptoms during seizure activity.

Types of Seizures in Epilepsy

Partial - focal or local

Motor activity or involuntary movements are generally limited to an upper extremity, entire limb, and/or one side of the face.
Sensory phenomena may develop such as numbness or tingling to the affected area.
Autonomic system stimulation results in epigastric sensations, pallor, sweating, "goose bumps", rapid heart beat, and rapid breathing.
May produce an "aura" such as a strange noise, smell, or visual disturbances.
May exhibit "automatisms" or automatic behaviors such as lip-smacking, chewing, patting a part of the body, or picking at clothing.

2. Generalized

Lead to a loss of consciousness.
May be convulsive or nonconvulsive.
Manifestations involve both hemispheres of the brain.
Include: Absence, Myoclonic - sudden, uncontrolled jerking movements, Clonic - rhythmic muscular contraction and relaxation, Tonic - an abrupt increase in muscle tone and contraction, Tonic-Clonic, Atonic - total loss of muscle tone.

Psychogenic (non-epileptic) Seizures

May resemble epileptic seizures, but do not involve abnormal electrical discharges in the brain.
Are stress-related or "emotional."
Are frequently misdiagnosed.
Patients may exhibit different movements with each seizure.

Diagnosis

EEG (electroencephalogram) with video monitoring - recording a patient for several hours to several days until seizure activity occurs.

Causes

Emotional, stress-induced, and can result from traumatic psychological experiences.

Treatment

Because PNES is a psychiatric condition, treatment mainly involves mental health professionals rather than a neurologist.
Some treatments include:
Psychotherapy
Stress-reduction techniques like relaxation and biofeedback training
Personal support to help with coping during treatment

So, if you or a loved one suffer from seizures and antiepileptic medications don't seem to help control them, evaluation for PNES may be indicated. Please remember, PNES are real seizures. Though they stem from emotional or stress-related issues, they are not "faked" events. Individuals with PNES need the same TLC and understanding we provide for epileptic patients.

As always, I wish you peace, love, and happiness this Spring!

2010-04-19T16:24:00.002-06:00

Life's Little Instructions

Sing in the shower
Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated
Watch a sunrise at least once a year
Leave the toilet seat in the down position
Never refuse homemade brownies
Strive for excellence, not perfection
Plant a tree on your birthday
Learn 3 clean jokes

Return borrowed vehicles with the gas tank full
Compliment 3 people every day
Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them
Leave everything a little better than you found it
Keep it simple
Thing big thoughts but relish small pleasures
Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know

Floss your teeth
Ask for a raise when you feel you've earned it
Be forgiving of yourself and others
Overtip breakfast waitresses
Say "thank you" a lot
Say "please" a lot
Avoid negative people
Buy whatever kids are selling on card tables in their front yards

Wear polished shoes
Remember other people's birthdays
Commit yourself to constant improvement
Carry jumper cables in your trunk
Have a firm handshake
Send lots of Valentine cards. Sign them, "Someone who thinks you're terrific."
Look people in the eye
Be the first to say, "Hello"

Use the good silver
Return all things you borrow
Make new friends but cherish the old ones
Keep secrets
Sing in a choir
Plant flowers every spring
Have a dog
Always accept an outstretched hand

Stop blaming others
Take responsibility for every area of your life
Wave at kids on school buses
Be there when people need you
Feed a stranger's expired parking meter
Don't expect life to be fair
Never underestimate the power of love

Drink champagne for no reason at all
Live your life as an exclamation, not an explanation
Don't be afraid to say, "I made a mistake"
Don't be afraid to say, "I don't know"
Compliment even small improvements
Keep your promises (no matter what)
Marry only for love
Rekindle old friendships
Count your blessings
Call your mother

~H.J. Brown, Jr.

Psych Series #7

2010-04-17T19:12:00.002-06:00

Psych Series #7: Addiction - Drama

Do you find yourself drawn to crises, panic, worry? Do you find yourself getting caught up in other people's drama over and over? Do you ever feel like you need to rescue others involved in dramatic situations? You may be addicted to drama.

We most often hear about addiction when talking about substances such as alcohol or illicit drugs. Other common addictions include gambling, sex, work, exercise, or eating disorders. Not as commonly discussed is the "high" some people get from being involved in dramatic situations. That's right, people can be addicted to just about anything, even drama!

What is addiction or addictive behavior?
"Any activity, substance, or behavior that has become the major focus of a person's life to the exclusion of other activities, or that has begun to harm the individual or others physically, mentally, or socially is considered an addictive behavior."

Addictive behaviors often bring about a sense of euphoria and may produce beta-endorphins, giving a person that sense of "high". A person involved in addictive behaviors may actually develop an addiction to his or her own brain chemicals.

So, how can you tell if a behavior is just a bad habit or an addiction? Here are some common characteristics of addictive behaviors:

Obsession (constantly thinking about) with an object, activity, or substance.
Engaging in the behavior even when it causes harm
Compulsively engaging in the activity or behavior
Withdrawal symptoms upon cessation of the activity (irritability, craving, restlessness, or depression).
Loss of control over when, how long, or how much he/she will continue the behavior.
Denial that problems are resulting from he/her engagement in the behavior.
Hiding the behavior from family and close friends
"Blackouts" while engaging in behavior
Depression
Low self esteem
Anxiety if he/she does not feel in control of his/her environment
Family history of psychological or physical abuse

Now that we have defined the general characteristics of addictive behaviors...let's look specifically at addiction to drama!

Signs & Symptoms

Experiencing one crisis or challenging situation after another, year after year
Overreacting to stressful situations - panic, worry, anger
Feeling powerless over life circumstances
Blaming others/ not taking responsibility for his/her own life choices
Retelling a story over and over to anyone who will listen
Feeling the need to take care of or "rescue" others in dramatic situations
Excessively gossiping about others' misfortunes

Why do people create drama? With any unhealthy behavior, there is a payoff. This is the sense of "high" previously noted. Common payoffs from creating drama include a sense of love, attention, safety, and security. Yet, these payoffs are often fleeting and short-lived. Once the drama stops, those feelings decrease. This promotes the vicious cycle of creating more and more drama to sustain that overall sense of well-being.

Tired of the cycle? Ready to make some healthy changes? Well, here are some ways to change your beliefs and behaviors to develop a healthier way to gain love, attention, safety & security. First, try to identify what the underlying need is....insight into what drives the behavior will help identify ways to change that behavior pattern. Other options include:

Remember your strengths and skills
Focus on solutions, not the problem
Breathe and process your emotions instead of overreacting
Take responsibility for your actions instead of blaming others
Look for lessons/gifts in each situation
Avoid retelling a story over and over again
Find ways to keep a positive attitude during difficult times
Move beyond the "victim" mentality
Live in the present, let go of the past
Enjoy the richness of peace and stillness
Participate in calming mind/body practices such as yoga
Avoid gossiping
Stay out of others' business

Hope this helps you drama kings and queens out there to take a new approach to getting your needs met!

Peace, Love, and Happiness!

2010-04-16T11:42:00.002-06:00

Bringing Me Down

Everyday, always the same
I hear your name and it cuts through me like a chainsaw
And I fall back into that simple fool that you once knew

And just as soon as I let you back in
Seems I'm reminded of all of this again

I can't believe that I let you walk all over me
And I can't believe that you had such a hold on me
Bringing me down, you're bringing me down
You're bringing me down

How much more will it take until I break and I drive that stake
Right into that thing that you call your heart
Hell it's fallen apart and I don't think it worked right from the start

Just as soon as I let you back in
Seems I'm reminded of all of this again

I can't believe that I let you walk all over me
And I can't believe that you had such a hold on me
Bringing me down, you're bringing me down

You're bringing me down, down, down
Bringing me down, you're bringing me down
You're bringing me down, down, down

Bringin' me down, bringin' me down
Bringin' me down, bringin' me down

I can't believe that I let you walk all over me
And I can't believe that you had such a hold on me

And I can't believe that I let you walk all over me
And I can't believe that you're still bringing me, bringing me down

You're bringing me, bringin' me down
Bringin' me down, bringin' me down!

~ Drowning Pool

Funnies from the Sarcastic

2010-04-03T09:07:00.004-06:00

Ah, some refreshing sarcasm from my favorite Someecards! Thanks to B.R. for introducing me to the marvelous cache of sarcastic fodder!

Peace, Love, Happiness, and Humor!

Prison vs. Work

2010-03-31T19:38:00.002-06:00

IN PRISON...you spend the majority of your time in an 8x10 cell.
AT WORK...you spend the majority of your time in a 6x8 cubicle.

IN PRISON...you get three meals a day.
AT WORK...you only get a break for one meal and you pay for it.

IN PRISON...you get time off for good behavior.
AT WORK...you get more work for good behavior.

IN PRISON...the guard locks and unlocks all the doors for you.
AT WORK...you must carry around a security card and open all the doors for yourself.

IN PRISON...you can watch TV and play games.
AT WORK...you get fired for watching TV and playing games.

IN PRISON...you get your own toilet.
AT WORK...you have to share with some idiot who pees on the seat.

IN PRISON...they allow your family and friends to visit.
AT WORK...you can't even speak to your family.

IN PRISON...the taxpayers pay all expenses with no work required.
AT WORK...you get to pay all the expenses to go to work and then they deduct taxes from your salary to pay for prisoners.

IN PRISON...you spend most of your life inside bars wanting to get out.
AT WORK...you spend most of your time wanting to get out and go inside bars.

IN PRISON...you must deal with sadistic wardens.
AT WORK...they are called managers.

No wonder recidivism rates are high! Hope this brings some smiles to all you out there in cubicle-land!

Peace, Love, and Happiness!

2010-03-20T15:10:00.002-06:00

"Just Like You"

I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you

I could be fake
I could be stupid
You know I could be just like you

You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

I could be cold
I could be ruthless
You know I could be just like you

I could be weak
I could be senseless
You know that I could be just like you

You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

On my own, 'cause I can't take living with you
I'm alone, so I won't turn out like you
Want me to

You thought you were standing beside me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you
You thought you were there to guide me
You were only in my way
You're wrong if you think that I'll be just like you

I could be mean
I could be angry
You know I could be just like you

~ Three Days Grace

Our Forever Garden

2010-02-15T13:53:00.002-07:00

Our Forever Garden

"Our forever garden, a place where you and I
sit on a bench made of wood, carved with hearts.
A magical garden, where roses glitter with dew,
soft breezes sing love songs,
cooling waters of azure blue glisten in the sun.
Memories are created, dreams come true,
in this garden of ours.
Alone with our thoughts,
sheltered from everyday life,
paradise for all eternity.
Hearts smiling with love,
gives life meaning, proves it's worthwhile.

Our forever garden, a place where
we promise 'to be faithful partners in sickness and in health,
in good times and in bad,
in joy as well as in sorrow.
To love unconditionally,
to support our goals,
to honor and respect each other,
to laugh and to cry together,
and to cherish each other for as long as we both shall live.'

Our forever garden, a place where
we will dwell for infinity, fulfilling these vows.
Savoring the sweet fragrance of roses,
listening to love songs sung by the wind,
bathing in cool cleansing waters,
nurturing the love that grows,
keeping the magic alive in A jamais nortre jardin.
Je t'aime mon cheri."

~Sylvia

2010-02-06T08:26:00.002-07:00

Beautiful

"But you have to walk a thousand miles
In my shoes, just to see
What it's like, to be me I'll be you, let's trade shoes
Just to see what it'd be like to
Feel your pain, you feel mine
Go inside each other's mind
Just to see what we find
Look at s**t through each other's eyes"

~~lyrics from M.M.

2010-01-17T13:27:00.001-07:00

Management We Need You - STAT!

2009-12-13T15:09:00.002-07:00

Another grueling week has passed at work, and medical staff has now concluded that this is truly a crisis situation. As some have stated, "it's sink or swim time." With recent developments involving management, we are all coming to the realization that a major team effort is mandatory in order to make it through some tough times.

I recently ran across a saying by JFK that I have posted above about crises - danger/opportunity. It is obvious that some co-workers looked at the situation and saw only danger. These are the few who have "abandoned ship" or moved on to "greener pastures." The remaining staff have apparently seen this as the opposite - a time full of opportunities; a chance to grow as a team.

And the team effort has been impressive! Staff members have been volunteering for extra shifts to help with coverage. Communication has vastly improved. Laughter & smiles are returning. Overall there seems to be a sense of relief and a willingness to "make it work." It has been refreshing to see the "old team" back in action.

It has been an unfortunate chain of events, but has resulted in a better team environment. Hopefully this next year brings even more opportunities for growth & team development. I believe that the only place to go from here is UP.

Peace, Love & Happiness in tough times!

2009-12-06T15:59:00.001-07:00

Dream Deferred

"What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
Like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore--
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.
Or does it explode?"

~L. Hughes

2009-12-03T18:27:00.004-07:00

Sometimes, no matter how many times you think it, wish it, or say it....delusional dreams will not become reality. I know this may pop a few bubbles out there, but facts are facts and life continues on.

Fun Times...

2009-11-23T21:18:00.007-07:00

...at the kitty shelter! Here are some of my favorite pics from recent adventures with Miss A, Ms. K, and Ms. S:

Eleanor (a.k.a. Buffy)

Bogart ("Bo")

Moose (the 27lb. resident "greeter")

New babies headed to a foster home

Untying a shoe in the "geriatric" kitty room

And one of my faves....Moose's brother, so regal!

Peace, Love & Happiness to all!

Really?!

2009-11-22T15:17:00.002-07:00

I am still stunned that one would randomly quit a decent job with the current job market the way it is....over one tiny little evening shift. Really?! And the logic went something like this: "well, if I have enough warning I can have my family make sure my child gets to all of the events, gets fed, etc. I just know the schedule will get worse. I was hired to work days only, no weekends or evenings! I mean, if I end up getting a job with an evening shift, at least I will have time to arrange childcare with my family."

What??? Did you just say that you would rather risk having to work full time EVENINGS than work 1 single evening a MONTH away?! And all this in the name of childcare for your 17-year-old. Can your 17-year-old not make a PB & J for one night & make sure he/she makes it in to bed one night?! I just wonder what is going to happen when this kid graduates & goes away to college next Fall.

Guess you gotta do what's best for you...and it really doesn't have to make logical sense to the general public. Here's to quirky characters!

Peace, Love & Happiness!

A Happy Birthday!

2009-11-08T15:40:00.002-07:00

What a fun time spent celebrating my Love's birthday with family & friends! We couldn't have asked for a more entertaining evening! Thanks to everyone who came out to celebrate with us!

Peace, Love & Happiness!
~Vix

What If?

2009-10-19T22:38:00.002-06:00

There it sits, wind-blown, sun-bleached, alone. The silk flowers wilting from weather and age. The paint peeling, wood warping, and leaning slightly to the left. The lone cross casting shadows on the dried grass as the rush hour traffic zooms by. A memorial of one lost, not forgotten.

You've all seen one, planted alongside a winding mountain road, posted on a telephone pole near busy intersection. A wooden cross, a sign, a painted white bicycle...a memorial placed at the site where someone lost their life. As you drive by, do you ever say a silent prayer for the lost soul or wonder how their family is doing? Maybe you contemplate your own life and what your family might do if they lost you. But have you ever wondered 'what if...?"

What if we placed memorial symbols in every place where someone has passed away? I know, it's completely morbid, but so is the idea of repeatedly visiting the exact site of your loved one's sudden death! Can you imagine meeting up with your realtor to find a new house & walking in to find a memorial posted on the wall marking the room where someone passed away earlier in the year? Or maybe getting admitted to the hospital for a minor procedure, and the room you're admitted to has a big ole cross on the wall (or maybe a few) denoting that someone died in that room? Would that boost your confidence in your doctor or your chances of making it out of that room alive?

Don't get me wrong, I do believe that we need to remember those who have passed before us. But, that does not mean that I want to go to my grandmother's house and sit in her living room, on a hospital bed, remembering those last few moments of her life. I want to remember her living life! I want to remember those vibrant moments that made me smile, laugh, cry. I would rather not focus on those last few moments, as her emaciated body struggled with her last breath.

So, the next time you're in the grocery store, at the bank, or walking into your public library....just imagine if we plastered the world with memorial plaques any place where someone took their last breath! Just wondering "what if...?"

Half-Your-Age-Plus-Seven

2009-10-18T12:46:00.002-06:00

"The 'half-your-age-plus-seven rule' is a mathematical formula used to judge whether the age difference in an intimate relationship is socially acceptable."

So that means....divide by 2, carry the 1....Phew! We just made the cut off! :)

Peace, Love & Happiness on this sunny Autumn day!

2009-10-18T04:27:00.001-06:00

"Where's you gavel? Your jury?
What's my offense this time?
You're not a judge but if you're gonna judge me
Well, sentence me to another life"

~Paramore

Plumb

2009-10-13T18:48:00.003-06:00

I fell in love with a song the other day! I've been rockin' out to a remix of Damaged by Plumb for years now and the other day, while wandering through the endless tunes on the "HD of Doom," I stumbled across a new favorite Plumb song. If you were ever in search of a great life soundtrack song here it is (especially for any of you parents out there):

In My Arms

Your baby blues, so full of wonder
Your curly cues, your contagious smile
And as I watch, you start to grow up
All I can do is hold you tight

Knowing clouds will rage
And storms will race in but you will be safe in my arms
Rains will pour down, waves will crash all around
But you will be safe in my arms

Story books full of fairy tales
Of kings and queens and the bluest skies
My heart is torn just in knowing
You'll someday see the truth from lies

When clouds will rage
And storms will race in but you will be safe in my arms
Rains will pour down, waves will crash all around
But you will be safe in my arms

Castles they might crumble
Dreams may not come true
But you are never all alone
Because I will always, always love you

When the clouds will rage
And storms will race in but you will be safe in my arms
Rains will pour down, waves will crash all around
But you will be safe in my arms, in my arms

~Plumb

~>Peace, Love & Happiness<~

Guide to Inking

2009-10-11T19:40:00.003-06:00

For any of you out there planning on getting some ink...here's a little guide to help you decide which bodily part to decorate:

2009-10-05T10:28:00.002-06:00

On the agenda for this week:

work
dinner guests
housework
music fun
more work
and fun times!

Hope you all have a great week!

~Peace, Love & Happiness

2009-10-04T15:18:00.002-06:00

We've had some rainy days in the City of Trees. I love the way the weather changes here. Last week we were roasting in the 90s and this week everyone is breaking out the sweatshirts & hot cocoa. I only wish we had had some good summer thunderstorms this year. Nothing beats a warm, stormy night.

With the change in temperature comes the need for warm winter-wear. M & I had fun taking the kiddos shopping today for winter coats and warmer shirts. We were much more successful than the earlier swimsuit shopping adventure this spring! Found a toasty warm coat, jeans, shirts & boots for A...and some shirts, tanks & boots for J. Adorable girls! And no shopping trip is complete without a lunch date. A's eyes were HUGE when the waitress came out with the Mile High Mud Pie slice...even between the 4 of us, we couldn't finish it. We were stuffed!

I'm glad we could help their proud papa out...at least give him a break and a boy's day with his baby boy. Plus it keeps M from going through kiddo withdrawals. :)

Wishing you warm days with family & friends!

~Peace, Love & Happiness

Evil Cats

2009-08-28T17:05:00.005-06:00

And my very own "evil" kitty...Ryoko.

Coming Soon To A Blog Near You...

2009-08-23T20:24:00.003-06:00

UPDATES! That's right folks...the time has finally come to update this dusty ol' thing! With the Summer fun winding down I should finally have some time to bring you some fun facts, Psych Series, and random ramblings. Check back soon!

Peace, love, and happiness!

2009-06-22T21:23:00.002-06:00

God's Promise

"God didn't promise days without pain,
Joy without sorrow, or sun without rain.
But, God did promise strengths for the day.
Comfort for tears and light for the way.
And for those who believe
In His Kingdom of love.
He answers their faith
With His peace from above."

We love you and miss you, but are all glad you no longer suffer and have finally found peace!

R.I.P. ELB

2009-06-16T15:55:00.002-06:00

When I'm Gone

"When I come to the end of my journey
And I travel my last weary mile
Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned
And remember only the smile

Forget unkind words I have spoken
Remember some good I have done
Forget that I ever had heartache
And remember I've had loads of fun

Forget that I've stumbled and blundered
And sometimes fell by the way
Remember I have fought some hard battles
And won, ere the close of the day

Then forget to grieve for my going
I would not have you sad for a day
But in summer just gather some flowers
And remember the place where I lay

And come in the shade of evening
When the sun paints the sky in the West
Stand for a few moments beside me
And remember only my best."

~ Mrs. Lyman Hancock

Gone From My Sight

2009-06-08T18:40:00.002-06:00

"I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says: 'There, she is gone!'

'Gone where?'

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear the load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says: 'There, she is gone!' There are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: 'Here she comes!'

And that is dying."

~H. Van Dyke

Says The Reaper to a Family...

2009-06-07T16:21:00.003-06:00

"Your acceptance is not required to validate my existence." ~F.M.S.

Makes You Stop And Think...

2009-06-04T17:06:00.003-06:00

After reading this article in a local newspaper today, I realize that many people take for granted the safety of their children when in the care of a significant other. It baffles me that anyone could or would harm a child in such a way!

Nampa man accused of breaking toddler's arm twice in two weeks

"Mario Gonzalez Jr., 23, was charged with two counts of felony aggravated battery Wednesday in connection with the repeated physical abuse of his girlfriend's daughter over a two-week period.

Canyon County Prosecutor John Bujak said Gonzalez was charged with aggravated battery as opposed to felony injury to a child because the maximum possible penalty for battery is 15 years in prison - five years longer than the maximum penalty for the other charge.

Nampa police began investigating the case Friday after getting a call from an employee at Mercy Medical Center, which was treating the child for a spiral fracture in her left arm.

Police interviewed Gonzalez and the child's mother, but no arrests were made, according to court documents.

Medical reports later showed that the toddler had suffered another broken bone in her arm about 10 days earlier.

Nampa police interviewed Gonzalez at his home in the 200 block of Shoshone Avenue on Tuesday, and he admitted he picked up the toddler by her left arm May 29. The toddler's arm went behind her back, and Gonzalez lifted her up about 3 to 4 feet and dropped her, according to court records.

Gonzalez also admitted to grabbing the toddler by the right arm and pulling her straight out of the crib on either May 19 or May 20. After pulling the toddler out of the crib, Gonzalez burned her on her toe about 15 times with a cigarette, saying he was frustrated that she wouldn't stop crying. Gonzalez also told officers he shook and hit the baby several times.

Gonzalez told police he was frustrated with the toddler every time he struck her and knew he was the one who caused her injuries.

He was arrested and booked into the Canyon County Jail. A judge set a $250,000 bond for Gonzalez, who will have a preliminary hearing on the charges later this month.

Bujak said Thursday the mother of the toddler will not be charged in connection with the case because she fully cooperated with police once she figured out what was going on.

Bujak said the toddler was left alone with Gonzalez when the injuries occurred and that the mother appeared to believe Gonzalez' initial explanation for what happened until she was confronted by police, at which point she began to cooperate with law enforcement."

Don't you wish all parents or parents' significant others were such model caregivers?! It's unbelievable! I suppose this just reminds us all to give kids extra hugs, more of our time, and a lot of patience. There will never be a rational reason to injure a child in such a way! Appreciate what you have, distance yourself from unhealthy relationships, and give your kiddos tons of hugs & love!

Just remember...

2009-05-26T13:05:00.004-06:00

War, recession, disease, death. With all the bad news circling around us in these times, it's not hard to take on a negative view of the world.

Yet, somehow, there always seems to be a silver lining to those stormy clouds. Sometimes you just have to look at it from a different angle...change your perspective.

2009-05-25T20:54:00.002-06:00

And now...back to the daily grind of the average work week.

2009-05-23T12:24:00.002-06:00

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

~ Maya Angelou

2009-05-20T21:37:00.002-06:00

The Death-Bed

He drowsed and was aware of silence heaped
Round him, unshaken as the steadfast walls;
Aqueous like floating rays of amber light,
Soaring and quivering in the wings of sleep.
Silence and safety; and his mortal shore
Lipped by the inward, moonless waves of death.

Someone was holding water to his mouth.
He swallowed, unresisting; moaned and dropped
Through crimson gloom to darkness; and forgot
The opiate throb and ache that was his wound.
Water--calm, sliding green above the weir.
Water--a sky-lit alley for his boat,
Bird-voiced, and bordered with reflected flowers
And shaken hues of summer; drifting down,
He dipped contented oars, and sighed, and slept.

Night, with a gust of wind, was in the ward,
Blowing the curtain to a glimmering curve.
Night. He was blind; he could not see the stars
Glinting among the wraiths of wandering cloud;
Queer blots of colour, purple, scarlet, green,
Flickered and faded in his drowning eyes.

Rain--he could hear it rustling through the dark;
Fragrance and passionless music woven as one;
Warm rain on drooping roses; pattering showers
That soak the woods; not the harsh rain that sweeps
Behind the thunder, but a trickling peace,
Gently and slowly washing life away.

He stirred, shifting his body; then the pain
Leapt like a prowling beast, and gripped and tore
His groping dreams with grinding claws and fangs.
But someone was beside him; soon he lay
Shuddering because that evil thing had passed.
And death, who'd stepped toward him, paused and stared.

Light many lamps and gather round his bed.
Lend him your eyes, warm blood, and will to live.
Speak to him; rouse him; you may save him yet.
He's young; he hated War; how should he die
When cruel old campaigners win safe through?

But death replied: 'I choose him.' So he went,
And there was silence in the summer night;
Silence and safety; and the veils of sleep.
Then, far away, the thudding of guns.

~Siegfried Sassoon

Psych Series #6

2009-05-11T21:39:00.005-06:00

Psych Series #6: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Ever feel as though you are better than others? Do you fantasize about your own power, success, or attractiveness? Do you have trouble keeping healthy relationships? You may be experiencing symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Personality disorders involve personality traits that can cause an individual to feel and behave in a socially distressing ways. These traits can also limit a person's ability to function in a healthy way in relationships, at work, at school, and in other areas of his/her life. Personality disorders are categorized into three clusters:

Cluster A: Odd or eccentric behavior (i.e. Schizoid, Paranoid, or Schizotypal Disorders)

Cluster B: Dramatic, emotional or erratic behavior (i.e. Antisocial, Borderline, or Narcissistic Disorders)

Cluster C: Anxious, fearful behavior (i.e. Avoidant, Dependent, or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder as a mental health diagnosis first appeared in the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). According to the DSM-IV-TR, this disorder occurs in approximately 2 to 16 percent of the "clinical population" and less than 1 percent of the "general population" (APA, 2000). Narcissistic Personality Disorder is more frequently diagnosed in men than women.

Signs & Symptoms

Lack of humility

Grandiose sense of self-importance

Exaggeration achievements and talents

Lack of empathy; unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

Fragile sense of self-esteem

Appear "tough-minded" or "unemotional"

Envy; being envious of others; believing others are envious of him/her

Difficulty maintaining healthy relationships

Sense of entitlement; unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his/her expectations

Arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

Interpersonal exploitation; takes advantages of others to achieve his/her own ends

Easily hurt or rejected

Set unrealistic goals.

Clinical Picture

"Individuals with narcissistic disorder appear to lack humility, being overly self-centered and exploiting others to fulfill their own desires. They often do not conceive of their behavior as being inappropriate or objectionable. Because they view themselves as 'superior' beings, they believe they are entitled to special rights and privileges (Townsend, 2003)."

"Though often grounded in grandiose distortions of reality, their mood is usually optimistic, relaxed, cheerful, and carefree. This mood can easily change, however, as a result of their fragile self-esteem. If they do not meet self-expectations, do not receive positive feedback they expect from others, or draw criticism from others, they may respond with rage, shame, humiliation, or dejection (Townsend, 2003)."

Risk Factors

Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents (i.e. parent living vicariously through child)

Unpredictable or unreliable care-giving from parents

Severe emotional abuse in childhood

Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or talents by adults

Learning manipulative behaviors from parents

Excessive admiration that is not balanced with realistic feedback

Treatments

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - helps identify unhealthy, negative beliefs/behaviors and replace them with healthy positive ones

Family Therapy - therapy sessions involving the entire family exploring conflicts, communication, and problem-solving to assist with relationship issues

Group Therapy - therapy sessions with a group of people with similar conditions; helps with better relating to others; good way to learn how to listen to others, learn about their feelings, and offer support.

If any of these signs/symptoms/definitions sound familiar, you can find assistance or more information through your primary care provider, local mental health clinic, or on-line at mayoclinic.com.

Wishing you all peace, love, and happiness this year!

Funnyz

2009-05-05T16:53:00.003-06:00

2009-04-29T11:23:00.002-06:00

The Road Not Taken
"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."
~Robert Frost

It's About Bloomin' Time...

2009-04-26T19:24:00.011-06:00

More floral shots from this weekend for you all to enjoy. I had a few more tulips sprout and my lilacs are about to bloom!

Viburnum (this one smells delicious)

Lilacs

The Tulips

I love the yellow feathering effect on the petal edges.

"Waking Up"

"Snooze"

Red

Check out the red speckles on this one

Bright, sunny day in Boise!

Peace, love and happiness to everyone! Hope you are all enjoying Spring!

2009-04-21T21:54:00.003-06:00

"I live the life I love
And I love the life I live."
I Love The Life I Live

"I'd rather you hate me
For everything I am
Than have you love me
For something that I ain't"
Never Enough

"I'm taking her home with me, all dressed in white
She's got everything I need, pharmacy keys
She's falling hard for me I can see it in her eyes
She acts just like a nurse with all the other guys"
The Nurse Who Loved Me

"But I don't have time for your distorted esteem..."
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"Well I confess, you were too much stress
I'd have a heart attack at best"
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"Stop talking down to me
Your war is old, your game is over
So here's my coldest shoulder"
Say It

PBR 2009

2009-04-16T21:00:00.009-06:00

After much ado, here is the official posting for PBR 2009, Nampa, Idaho. We had a blast checking out the competition this year and made it to the finals this time. Todd won the chance to play Out of the Chute - bull riding game for the Wii - on the big screen during one of the intermissions! Todd won with a 0.2 second lead on his fellow competitor. It was hysterical!

Back to the real competition...we got some great shots of the action! I present them here for your enjoyment:

Idaho's own Wiley Peterson

Brazil's Guilherme Marchi - 2008 PBR World Champion!

Crash Cooper & Me

Our winning "signature" t-shirt!

Hope you enjoyed all the fun pics! Check back for more updates often! Wishing you all health, happiness, and good times!

Springtime!

2009-04-13T19:05:00.014-06:00

The sun is shining, the songbirds are singing, and the flowers are in bloom...Spring has sprung! Here are some Spring-inspired shots from my neck of the woods for you all to enjoy!

Forsythia

Tulips

Hyacinths

And some happy Daffodils!

Wishing you lots of sunshine and joy this Spring!

Appetizers

2009-04-05T22:33:00.004-06:00

Looking for an update on my crazy weekend? Well, here is a little taste to tide you over. I will post more in the coming days, but for now need to catch up on some sleep! So, while I'm off to Slumberland...here are some pics for you to enjoy!

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Expect more pics & stories from the weekend, including some great shots of Brazil's Guilherme Marchi, Big Tex, Chicken on a Chain, and Idaho's own Wiley Peterson! Stayed tuned...

Psych Series #5: Anger & Aggression (Positive or Negative?)

2009-04-02T21:35:00.002-06:00

Psych Series #5

What comes to mind when you hear the terms anger or angry? Do you picture a positive outcome or negative outcome to a situation that involves anger? Many people when faced with these questions may automatically focus on the negative aspects of the emotion anger. But, there is an upside to an angry emotional state. Hopefully this will help you identify the positives and negatives to anger & aggression.

Let's start out with some definitions!

Anger:

"A strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance"
"Belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong"
"A normal, healthy emotion that serves as a warning signal and alerts us to potential threat or trauma." (Townsend, 2003).

Aggression:

"The act of initiating hostilities or invasion"
"The practice or habit of launching attacks"
"Hostile or destructive behavior or actions"
"...a behavior intended to threaten or injure the victim's security or self-esteem." (Warren, 1990).
Warren (1990) also states: "Whether the damage is caused by words, fists, or weapons, the behavior is virtually always designed to punish. It is frequently accompanied by bitterness, meanness, and ridicule."

According to Townsend (2003), anger becomes a problem when it is not expressed and when it is expressed aggressively. (p.245) Violence results when a person loses control of his/her anger. So, how does one determine if they are expressing anger in a positive or negative way?

Predisposing factors to anger/aggression:

Modeling: Children learn how to express anger by modeling the expressions of parents, primary caregivers, or significant others.

Operant Conditioning: Reinforcement of a specific behavior. This can be through positive or negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement produces a pleasurable or desired result. Negative reinforcement prevents an undesirable result from occurring.

Neurophysiological Disorders: Traumatic brain injuries, brain tumors, and diseases like encephalitis have been predisposing factors to aggression and violent behaviors.

Biochemical Factors: Hormonal dysfunction in endocrine disorders such as Cushing's disease or hyperthyroidism have been associated with increased violent tendencies.

Socioeconomic Factors: Impoverished populations may have a higher rate of violence related to lack of resources, broken family relationships, alienation, discrimination, and frustrations.

Environmental Factors: Increased temperatures, physical crowding (overcrowding), and drug & alcohol use/abuse have also been implicated in contributing to aggressive behavior patterns.

Signs & Symptoms - How will someone appear or act when in an angry or aggressive state?

Anger

Intense distress
Frowning
Pacing
Clenched fists
Fatigue
Withdrawal
Increased energy
Emotional overcontrol
Change in tone of voice (yelling, shouting, lowered tone spoken through clenched teeth)

Aggression

Sarcasm
Verbal or physical threats
Change in tone of voice (raised/quavering tone, pitch, rapid/hesitant speech)
Degrading comments
Pacing
Invasion of personal space
Increased agitation or irritability
Misinterpretation of stimuli
Anger disproportionate to an event
Throwing or striking objects or people

So, for all of you "negative Nancys" out there...how is anger used in a negative way?

Can result in impulsive behavior (without thinking about negative consequences to actions)
Conflict may escalate and the problem initially creating the conflict goes unresolved.
A coping response of displaced anger may lead to aggression.
May create exaggerated feelings of control & the individual may try to use that "power" to intimidate others.
May mask true feelings, weakness, self-esteem leading to hostility and rage.

What about all the "positive Petes" out there...how can anger be a positive emotion?

Can energize & mobilize body for self-defense purposes. (Fight or Flight Response)
In an assertive way, can promote conflict resolution.
Signals threat or injustice against the "self" and elicits coping responses to help deal with the distress.
Assists with providing feelings of control in a situation & helps an individual assertively take charge of a situation.
Can create positive outcomes when expressed assertively, increasing self-esteem and leading to mutual understanding and forgiveness.

So the next time you are faced with anger, whether your own or someone else's, ask yourself "is this positive or negative?" Is it a healthy response to a perceived threat or is it a destructive, ineffective coping mechanism? A little patience and understanding go a long way in a negative situation. And keep in mind that you can catch more bees with honey that you can with vinegar!

Here's to healthy, happy and positively angry people everywhere!

Blue October

2009-04-01T15:13:00.002-06:00

Tickets to Blue October Private Label X-session: Free (won by my hubby!)

Cost of gas to drive to X Studio: Less than $1.00

Live serenade, meet & greet, & photo-op with Blue October (a band that totally ROCKS & has a special place in my heart FOREVER): PRICELESS

That's right folks, I got to meet & get serenaded by Blue October! And it was AMAZING! If you have never heard of these guys...you have been living under a rock or have just really missed out on life for awhile. This group, originally from Texas, formed in 1995 and has been rocking out to very original music ever since. With their eclectic tastes in music & variety of sounds, instruments & vocals, they have been impressing audiences around nation. Their lyrics are heartfelt, deep down & gritty, focusing on personal experiences of the band members. This isn't the kind of group that is going to be putting music out there just to make a buck or two. Songs such as "Hate Me" are raw and real. (The album version includes an actual voicemail recording from lead singer Justin's & drummer Jeremy's mom.) Topics include everything from mental health issues, broken relationships, and crappy business managers to letting go of the anger and getting healthier physically, emotionally & spiritually. Expect some open and honest lyrical poetry from these guys. And their live performances are nothing to ignore! If you ever get the chance to see these guys live...don't miss it!

"I Spy With My Little Eye..."

2009-03-26T21:09:00.003-06:00

...something that begins with S.
A "welcome back" to all you stalkers out there!

Voyages

2009-03-21T14:38:00.002-06:00

"Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen,
don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along.
You'll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on your way up!
You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you'll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don't
Because, sometimes, you won't.

I'm sorry to say so
but, sadly, it's true
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump,
you're not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
So you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You'll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't.
Because, sometimes, they won't.

I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you'll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!

~Dr. Seuss

Here's to happiness & safe travels!

Happy Saint Patrick's Day!

2009-03-17T22:01:00.002-06:00

Hope you are all enjoying this festive day!

Here are some fun activities to participate in for this March holiday:

Watch some Irish step dancing (or try it out for yourself)

Have some Green beer

Drink a Guinness (mmm....the only acceptable beer for an Irishman)

Eat a bowl of Lucky Charms (they're magically delicious!)

Listen to some Irish pub music, such as:

Sleepy Maggie
Whiskey In The Jar
Mari-Mac
The Night Pat Murphy Died
Drunken Sailor
The Wild Rover
Seven Drunken Nights
The Rocky Road To Dublin
When Irish Eyes Are Smiling
Danny Boy
I'm A Rover

Whatever you are doing today, remember to have tons 'o fun. Here's to the luck 'o the Irish!

Pedestrians, WATCH OUT!

2009-03-10T22:07:00.002-06:00

After watching the news this evening, two things come to mind: 1) Stay off the sidewalk and 2) WHO is licensing these people to drive?!

Yet another kid was hit by a car while walking home from school today! (Thank goodness he wasn't critically injured like the last young man, now in a coma at a local hospital).

In another part of town, a motorist almost drove into the Boise River after driving off the road by Boise State University around noon today! (per the news crew "drugs & alcohol may have been a factor." At NOON?! In the MIDDLE of the week?!)

While following a large pickup today, I watched him almost take out two different people in two different crosswalks. (Both pedestrians had the right of way!)

So kids, what have we learned today?
1.) Obtaining a driver's license apparently does not require any actual skills behind the wheel or safety training.

2.) "If you don't get started before noon, you'll be behind."

3.) The doctors might have been wrong about all that walking being so good for your health...especially if it involves walking by roadways, parking lots, school zones, river banks....ok just about anywhere that a car might be able to drive!

So all you pedestrians out there...stay safe & watch out for crazy drivers!

Special Olympics World Winter Games 2009!

2009-02-22T22:40:00.018-07:00

What a great state we live in! This year we were fortunate to host the Special Olympics World Winter Games! Among the many events, the figure skating competition was held in downtown Boise at Quest arena. My family volunteered to help staff the booth set up by the Boise Figure Skating Club.

It was so much fun to be involved with this event. The audience was so supportive of all the competitors, cheering & clapping for everyone! With everyone's help, the skating club was able to raise almost $5000 by selling stuffed flowers to toss out on the ice after a performance.

What a rewarding experience for all of us! We saw so many figure skaters from all over the world, including Germany, Japan, China, and Canada. We were also treated to a surprise practice skate session for Olympic Gold Medalist - Scott Hamilton!!! He was so nice...taking all the time in the world to get pictures with as many competitors as he could, signing autographs all around, and even taking one fan's baby for a spin around the ice!

Here are a few more of my favorite shots from the Special Olympics Figure Skating:

(Getting autographs - whether or not you asked for them) :)

(Members of the Boise Figure Skating Club got to help out with practices & performances or by "sweeping" - picking up gifts thrown on the ice for Olympians - they are seen here in the light blue dresses.)

Overall, it was a fun experience! The Olympians looked like they were having such a great time and the audience participation could not have been better! I'm so glad we got to be a part of it this year. I encourage everyone out there to take the opportunity if it ever presents itself in your hometown. Hooray for the Special Olympics and athletes everywhere!

Slacker!

2009-02-22T22:36:00.002-07:00

I've been a total slacker! Since the Special Olympics World Games in Idaho, we've been to Las Vegas, home, Sun Valley, and finally back home! And now, I have unfortunately caught that yucky cold bug that's been going around...ugh! I will try to get all the updates on here in the next week or so, but no promises. :) I hate being sickly!

Peace, Love & Good Health!

Quick Update

2009-02-08T21:38:00.003-07:00

Just wanted you all to know I haven't forgotten about my loyal fans. It was a busy week, ending with some super fun volunteering at the 2009 Special Olympics World Winter Games today. More to come (including pics), so check back often!

Fractals

2009-02-04T10:16:00.002-07:00

The simple definition of a fractal is: "a geometric pattern that is repeated at ever smaller scales to produce irregular shapes and surfaces that cannot be represented by classical geometry. Fractals are used especially in computer modeling of irregular patterns and structures in nature."

"Fractal" was coined by Benoit Mandelbrot in 1975. It basically means "an irregular surface like that of a broken stone." A fractal is a non-regular geometric shape. It has the same degree of non-regularity on all scales.

Fractals can be found in nature:

Or in art:

So, if you ever wondered why math was so important...it helps to explain the beauty we see in patterns around us. Go out and enjoy some geometry today!

Psych Series #4

2009-01-28T09:46:00.004-07:00

Psych Series #4: Bipolar Disorder

"Someone call the doctor
Got a case of a love bi-polar
Stuck on a roller coaster
Can't get off this ride...

...Cause you're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in then you're out
You're up then you're down"
~Hot 'N Cold - Katy Perry

Bipolar disorder is also known as Manic-Depressive illness. It is a brain disorder involving unusual shifts in a person's moods, energy, and ability to function. Unlike "normal" ups and downs, symptoms associated with bipolar disorder are severe. Symptoms of bipolar disorder typically develop in late adolescence or early adulthood. There have been reports of some individuals developing symptoms during childhood or later in life.

Signs & Symptoms: This disorder causes dramatic mood swings - overly "high" or irritable to sad and hopeless, then back again, with periods of "normal" moods in between. The periods of highs and lows are known as "episodes" of mania and depression.

Manic Episode Symptoms:

Increased energy, activity and restlessness

Excessively "high," overly good, euphoric mood

Extreme irritability

Racing thoughts and talking very fast, jumping from one idea to another

Distractibility, can't concentrate well
Decreased need for sleep

Unrealistic beliefs in one's abilities and powers (feeling of invincibility)

Poor judgment

Increased sexual drive

Abuse of drugs, particularly cocaine, alcohol, and sleeping medications

Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior

Denial that anything is wrong

A manic episode is diagnosed if elevated mood occurs with three or more of the other symptoms most of the day, nearly every day, for 1 week or longer.

Depressive Episode Symptoms:

Lasting sad, anxious, or empty mood

Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism

Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness

Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed, including sex

Decreased energy, a feeling of fatigue or of being "slowed down."

Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions

Restlessness or irritability

Sleeping too much, or can't sleep

Change in appetite and/or unintended weight loss or gain

Chronic pain or other persistent bodily symptoms that are not caused by physical illness or injury

Thoughts of death or suicide, or suicide attempts

A depressive episode is diagnosed if five or more of these symptoms last most of the day, nearly every day, for a period of 2 weeks or longer.

Treatments:

Medications - generally medications known as "mood stabilizers" are used for bipolar disorder.

Examples: Lithium, Depakote, Tegretol (Carbamazepine), Lamictal, Neurontin (Gabapentin), Topamax

Medications for Bipolar Depression - antidepressants and atypical antipsychotic medications are often used with the previously mentioned mood stabilizers to decrease rapid "cycling" from mania to depression.

Examples: Clozapine, Geodon, Zyprexa, Risperdal, Seroquel, Abilify, Klonopin, Ativan, Ambien

Psychotherapy

If you or a loved one needs help managing Bipolar disorder, contact your local hospital or psychiatric health provider. Other mental health providers include psychologists, psychiatric social workers, psychiatric nurses, and mental health counselors.

Wishing you health & happiness!

Totoro - Defined

2009-01-25T22:07:00.004-07:00

As any of my true stalkers know, I have some randomly named pets. Today I shall share with you the history of Totoro's name.

The name Totoro comes from the creative imaginings of Hayao Miyazaki and his movie "My Neighbor Totoro." In the movie, a totoro is a large creature who appears to be a combination of raccoons, cats & owls. He is basically a large "spirit of the forest." Other "non-human" characters in this film include Catbus, dust bunnies, and smaller Totoros.

When I adopted my Totoro, he spent many days and nights camped out under the bed, earning him the title "king of the dust bunnies" or "dust monster/spirit." It was only natural that he would come to be named Totoro, given his affinity toward dark places inhabited by dust bunnies and his striking resemblance to the main character in a favorite movie!

And now you know the short, sweet story of Totoro!

More Anime Characters

2009-01-22T20:18:00.002-07:00

Introducing Chococat! Chococat is a friend of Hello Kitty and was created by the Japanese corporation Sanrio. I dig him because he reminds me of my real life black kitty, Ryoko!

Peace & Love!

Ever Wondered...

2009-01-21T14:04:00.002-07:00

Why there are laws requiring a person to obtain a license to drive, fish, hunt, or sell random home-made art on a street corner...but there are no laws requiring any type of testing or licensing to create a new life (read: make a baby)!

Ok, I know, I know...human rights and all. But, shouldn't a kid have the right to good parents and a decent life? From the "Pro-life" standpoint, a fetus becomes a human life at conception. Therefore, human rights would come into effect at conception, giving an unborn child universal human rights. Right?

Perhaps humankind was created in all it's complexity before stupidity and evil were fully realized. Thus, most people have to ability to reproduce, but many lack the discretion. For example, a chronic meth abuser may have the right equipment to create a new life, but lacks the common sense that meth and babies really don't mesh well. Or, maybe you are a 16 year old girl who thinks that having a baby will make your boyfriend love you more...but realize too late that this isn't the case.

Either way, isn't a human life a little more fragile & valuable than a car or some home-made art? Perhaps instead of spending all the money we do on welfare, foster homes, counseling, and prisons we should put a little toward creating a licensing system for future parents. Perhaps some kind of clip surgically placed on all male infants' vas deferens, preventing the release of sperm until said clips could be removed surgically later in life. In order to have the clips removed, the male would have to pass testing and licensing procedures, maybe have to pay a little bit for the procedure to prove he really wanted to create a baby. I have yet to decide on a fail-safe mode of protection for women. But, hey it would be a start. I can see the teen pregnancy rates dropping already.

Anyway, just a thought... Remember, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!

Just Be...

2009-01-17T16:24:00.002-07:00

How true is this statement?! I'm sure everyone, at some point in life, has realized that it truly is better to live life for oneself than to try to live it the way someone else thinks you "should." And isn't life so much more fulfilling once you realize that? Over the years I have observed my parents come to this realization and have been able to observe the positive changes it has brought about.

While growing up, I was always told..."this is how we live, this is how you should be." But why? Whose rules are those? These questions were usually answered with something like "because" or "that's the way it's always been" or something similarly vague.

As a teen, I watched probably the most hilarious ceremony ever. My sister (who had just moved back from college) had stashed some beer in the 'fridge. Now, mind you, my family had been rather conservative regarding alcohol, smoking, etc. Prior to this, the only alcohol I think we ever kept in our house was for a science experiment when my sis and I were in elementary school. And even then, my parents had received the champagne as a gift for allowing a guy to land a hot air balloon in the front field! So, anyway, my sister had stashed the booze in the veggie crisper in an attempt to keep it from prying eyes. But, alas, the beer was discovered and to her shock & horror, my parents...in a display of parenting "the right way," made her pour every drop down the drain. (Because this was how it had always been. No alcohol in the house!)

And then came the life-changing phone call. It was the week of my 21st birthday, I was trying to decide what I wanted to do to celebrate, when the phone rang. I answered and the voice on the other end asked, "Hey, do you want to go out for margaritas on your birthday? We thought it would be fun!" What?! Who is this?! And, what have you done with my real parents???!!! Yes, it was my mother, the same one who stood by during the beer incident...asking if I wanted to go out for ALCOHOL on my birthday!

It was at that moment that I realized things didn't always have to continue to be "the way it's always been." Life changes, circumstances change, people change. It was that small moment in time that I began to see my parents in a different light. I think it was in this brief moment that they too began to see themselves in a different light. After many changes in life circumstances, I think they began to really question who they were really living for. Whose standards were they really trying to live up to, and were those standards really attainable?

And now when I go to visit them, I notice the occasional alcoholic beverage in the 'fridge or freezer. I notice the changes in behaviors. I notice the acceptance, the happiness, and the ease in which they live their daily lives. And, from that I realize that it is so much better to take the chance of being hated for who you are in reality, than to put up a facade and be loved for being fake.

So, take the time to ask yourself...who am I and who am I living for? If you can't answer either of those questions quickly and honestly...then perhaps it's about time you re-evaluate life and take a chance at being real. It just might make your day more fulfilling!

Peace, love, and happiness!

Love

2009-01-15T19:27:00.003-07:00

2009-01-14T14:24:00.002-07:00

Witty Kitty

2009-01-13T22:01:00.002-07:00

Peek-A-Boo

2009-01-12T17:04:00.002-07:00

...I see you!

Dedicated to all my loyal stalkers & fans. As Orwell said....Big Brother is always watching.

Happy viewing & pseudo-voyeurism! See you soon!

Fun Times 007-style

2009-01-11T13:52:00.003-07:00

We went out last night with my sister from another mister & brother-in-law for some Thai food and the new James Bond movie. I'm glad the feeling has finally made it back into my lips. I'm pretty sure the "level 2" curry that I ordered was a tad higher than just a "2". The new Bond film was pretty good. Of course, lots of action, some sexy characters, and David Craig. Now, mind you...I'm not one for blue eyes, but he does have a striking gaze!

After the flick was over, we decided to go play some shuffle board at a local bar. I know, I know...you're thinking of little old raisins on the deck of a cruise ship shuffle board...but this is a little different. More like dive bar table-top shuffle board, with small weighted metal discs. Much more fun than the raisin version. Plus, there is always plenty of entertaining people-watching to do in a dive bar. Such as the obvious bar regular at the end of the bar attempting to start a fight with my honey about hockey, only to be best buds with him a few minutes later. (Note: This guy also had a "missing" poster hung on a bulletin board). Or perhaps another great example was the couple who obviously couldn't head back to the trailer park, so proceeded to get it on in the corner of the bar! The female was later spotted macking on some other (younger) guys at the bar...which thoroughly displeased her former make-out partner. He eventually tried to start a very drunken fight outside, but gave up once the bartender walked out there. (The couple eventually hopped in a cab, with the rest of their friends, & headed home together.) The evening closed up after the cops showed up with Parole officers and wandered through the bar in search of someone.

On a side note, we did have to make a quick stop at a local grocery store to share the joy of discounted Christmas candies with the in-laws. Apparently, our nephew had his first taste of Hershey's Cherry Cordial Kisses after receiving some at school this winter. He has since been begging his mom to buy more and, alas, she has been unable to hunt any down. But we were in luck last night, as there were plenty to pick up at 75% off!!! So, Jeff snagged 15 bags of the tasty snacks along with some discounted Christmas lights and gift tags. All in all, Jeff saved $92!!!! Amazing! I love sales! Yay for candy!

All in all, it was an entertaining night!

A Joyous Day!

2009-01-09T09:46:00.003-07:00

What a glorious day! A few days ago, my honey surprised me with some much craved Candy Cane Kisses from Hershey's. These tasty treats are only available during the Christmas season and this year I didn't get to the stores in time to stock up before all the sales were done. But, alas....he was able to snag some while truckin' it to Sun Valley earlier in the week. Ah...sweet, little candy cane treats.

Then, yesterday, we happened to stop by a local grocery store and what might I have stumbled across?! That's right! A whole aisle full of Christmas goodies piled randomly in shopping carts. And with our good luck...we found MORE candy cane kisses. So, of course, I had to stock up.

So, now, I think this household will be good to go for the next 11 months til Hershey's starts sending out the next batch of tasty candy cane kisses. Mmmmmmm...

Wishing you peace, love, happiness....and tasty treats!

Psych Series #3

2009-01-08T10:47:00.010-07:00

#3: Meth-Induced Mood Disorders

Methamphetamine (Meth) is a drug that affects the central nervous system. As a Schedule II stimulant, this drug has a high potential for abuse. In the past, it was available only through a prescription. Its medical uses are limited and doses prescribed are much lower than those typically abused. Much of the current meth available now comes from foreign or domestic superlabs or small, illegal labs where production endangers the people in the labs, neighbors, and the environment.

Also known as crank, crystal, speed, or ice, methamphetamine was initially used in nasal decongestants and inhalers. Meth gained popularity when it was used in World War II to increase endurance for pilots on long missions. Later, meth was used in the US for weight control and as a treatment for depression. Now, meth is primarily used and abused in order to reach a level of alertness, euphoria, and sense of well-being lasting longer than effects from cocaine.

But there is definitely a dark and dirty down-side of meth use and abuse, the side most dealers don't elaborate on for first-time users. Long term effects of meth use can be devastating to individuals, families, and communities. One topic I would like to share today is meth-induced mood disorders.

According to A Clinician's Guide to Methamphetamines meth has been "associated with myriad psychiatric symptoms." These symptoms include depression, suicidal ideation, paranoia, hallucinations, delusions, psychotic reactions, panic disorders, and violent behavior. Meth use has also been associated with psychotic disorders, intoxication delirium, mood disorders, anxiety disorders, sleep disturbances, and sexual dysfunction. As with other substance abuse disorders, meth use may make it difficult to distinguish drug-induced psychiatric symptoms from a preexisting psychiatric condition.

With my recent job change, I have met many people with the diagnosis of "meth-induced mood disorder" which prompted me to do a little research into the definition.

"Methamphetamine-induced mood disorder is characterized by a prominent and persistent disturbance in mood, which has developed during or within one month of methamphetamine intoxication or withdrawal."

Characteristics of this mood disorder can include depression, irritability, elevated or expansive mood or markedly diminished interest or pleasure in most activities. Often times it is difficult to distinguish between a meth-induced disorder and a primary mood disorder, as they may have the same characteristics. Meth use may also aggravate a preexisting mood disorder.

Research continues into the best approach for treating this disorder. At this time, most treatments are geared toward symptom management. Anti-depressants, dopamine receptor antagonists (Haldol), and dopamine agonists have been used recently in pharmacotherapy (or management with medication) for this complex patient population.

Meth is a very addictive and destructive drug. If you still question it's destructive abilities, please visit any of the following websites:
http://www.oregonlive.com/news/oregonian/photos/gallery.ssf?cgi-bin/view_gallery.cgi/olive/view_gallery.ata?g_id=2927

http://www.mappsd.org/Faces%20of%20Meth.htm
(note the length of use dates at the bottom of the pics)

And perhaps the most frightening:
http://www.mappsd.org/Progression.htm

Wishing you all health and happiness out there!

Busy, Busy...

2009-01-07T20:08:00.002-07:00

Thanks for your patience...post updates are on their way. Life has been super busy this week - wacky work schedules & sleep needs have been a little higher on the priority list. But, don't despair...I've got some great stuff coming soon! Check back often!

~Peace & Love

Words from Buddha

2009-01-03T14:50:00.002-07:00

"Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many.
Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books.
Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.
Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations.
But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it."
~Buddha

Hap..Hap..Happy New Year!

2009-01-01T16:09:00.003-07:00

Welcome to 2009! What a wacky, crazy, fun year 2008 was! We had road-trips, a wedding, new family members, new boyfriends to meet, figure skating competitions to attend, new jobs, concert adventures, and fun celebrations.

I can't wait to see what adventures & experiences this new year has to offer! I hope it brings joyful times to everyone out there!

Wishing you all peace & love, health & happiness in the new year!!!!!

New Year's Eve

2008-12-31T18:18:00.004-07:00

It's started...the countdown to another new year. I can't believe this year has flown by so fast! So much has happened, so many accomplishments & events this year...phew! We will be celebrating & ringing in the New Year in style with family tonight.

Here's to all of you out there making resolutions, partying it up 'til the clock strikes midnight, getting toasty on champagne, or just chillin' at home reviewing the past year!

Peace & Love, Health & Happiness!

Relaxation

2008-12-30T16:43:00.002-07:00

Ahhhh....now this is relaxed! I've got my lil tootsies in the toasty warm foot bath I got for Christmas, and I'm getting a full Shiatsu massage from my new massage pad (thanks to my honey for some great presents!)! What else could I ask for? Well.....maybe a warm beach, sunshine, a hammock & a cabana boy bringing me little drinks w/umbrellas in them. :) But since that's not happening this week...I'll settle for some warm feet & relaxed muscles!

The new job is awesome! And though it keeps me up on my feet more, it does keep me moving! When you're running, you usually don't have time to pay attention to the clock. One minute it's start of shift, the next it's time to go home! I love the pace so far!

Anyway, I'm going to get back to chillaxin' in my pseudo-spa!

Wishing a happy day to everyone!

Wonderful Weekend!

2008-12-28T21:31:00.002-07:00

What an AWESOME Holiday weekend! We had so much fun spending time with family and friends! The parents & in-laws finally got to meet...which was so much fun, as expected. We had a blast going to a local hockey game, chillin' in the amazing suite that Britt hooked us up with, and watching our favorite celebrity figure skater tearing up the ice for an audience of 5,000+!

We spent a TON of time over at the in-laws', playing games, chatting, and just having an overall good time. I'm so glad the older girls could make it out for a bit, even with such scary driving conditions. We were constantly entertained by the boys & their puppy...she is sooooo sweet! I can't even remember all the tasty snacks we ate! And the crowning event of the entire weekend... we got my father-in-law to eat sushi! (Ok, it was "Gringo" sushi - with BBQ pork, chicken, etc from Guy Fieri...but it was still sushi-like). Baby steps...one of these days we will get him to eat the "real thing."

So here's to a wonderful Holiday spent with friends and family. Lots of warmth & love all around! Wishing peace, love, health & happiness for all in the upcoming year!

Psych Series: #2

2008-12-28T12:08:00.007-07:00

#2: Histrionic Personality Disorder

Histrionic Personality Disorder is characterized by colorful, dramatic, and extroverted behavior in excitable, emotional people (Kaplan & Sadock, 1998). People with these disorders have intense, unstable emotions and distorted self-images. People with this disorder often base their self-esteem on the approval of others and does not arise from a true feeling of self-worth. This disorder is more common in women than in men and is usually evident by early adulthood.

Signs & Symptoms

Usually have good social skills, but tend to use these skills to manipulate others so that they can be the center of attention.
Be uncomfortable unless he or she is the center of attention.
Dress provocatively and/or exhibit inappropriately seductive or flirtatious behavior.
Shift emotions rapidly.
Act very dramatically as though performing before an audience with exaggerated emotions and expressions, yet appears to lack sincerity.
Be overly concerned with physical appearance.
Constantly seek reassurance or approval.
Be gullible and easily influenced by others.
Be excessively sensitive to criticism or disapproval.
Have low tolerance for frustration and be easily bored by routine.
Not think before acting, make rash decisions.
Be self-centered and rarely show concern for others.
Have difficulty maintaining relationships, often seeming fake or shallow in their dealings with others.
Threaten or attempt suicide to get attention.

Treatment

Generally people with histrionic personality disorder do not believe that they need therapy or treatment. Treatment plans are difficult for these people as they tend to exaggerate their feelings and dislike routine. People with this disorder may seek treatment for a symptom, such as depression, if the symptom causes them distress.

Psychotherapy - generally the treatment of choice. This counseling-type therapy helps the individual uncover motivations and fears related to his or her thoughts and behaviors. It also helps the person learn how to relate to others in a more positive way.
Medication - may be used to treat individual symptoms, such as depression or anxiety.

Outcome

Many people with histrionic personality disorder are able to function socially and at work. Those with severe cases may experience significant problems in their daily lives. Those who deal with this disorder daily may benefit from treatment, allowing them to learn more productive & positive ways of dealing with life's situations.

If you or a loved one are dealing with histrionic personality disorder, you can find more information through NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), the Cleveland Clinic Foundation, or your local psychiatric health care provider.

Wishing you good health and good luck!

Go Broncos!

2008-12-23T16:24:00.002-07:00

Cheerin' for the Broncos in tonight's Poinsettia Bowl! Go Big Blue!

Psych Series: #1

2008-12-22T16:15:00.003-07:00

In this series you will find symptoms, treatments, and general information about a variety of mental health illness & disorders.

#1: Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a controversial diagnosis these days in psychology. According to DSM-IV criteria, a diagnosis of BPD requires a person to present with at least five (5) of the following nine (9) criteria:

Shifts in mood lasting only a few hours.
Anger that is inappropriate, intense or uncontrollable.
Self-destructive acts, such as self-mutilation or suicidal threats and gestures that happen more than once.
Two potentially self-damaging impulsive behaviors. (These could include alcohol and other drug abuse, compulsive spending, gambling, eating disorders, shoplifting, reckless driving, compulsive sexual behavior.)
Marked, persistent identity disturbance shown by uncertainty in at least two (2) areas. These areas can include self-image, sexual orientation, career choice or other long term goals, friendships, values. (People with BPD may not feel like they know who they are, or what they think, or what their opinions are, or what religion they should be. Instead, they may try to be what they think other people want them to be.)
Chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom.
Unstable, chaotic intense relationships characterized by "splitting."
Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment:

Splitting: the self and others are viewed as "all good" or "all bad."
Alternating clinging and distancing behaviors (I Hate You, Don't Leave Me).
Great difficulty trusting people and themselves. Early trust may have been shattered by people who were close to them.
Sensitivity to criticism or rejection.
Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive.
Heavy need for affection and reassurance.
Some people with BPD may have an unusally high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight, and empathy.

9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms. (This means
feeling "out of it," or not being able to remember what you said or did.)

Other symptoms & attributes of people with BPD:

Affect - chronic/major depression, helplessness, hopelessness, guilt, anger (including frequent expressions of anger), anxiety, loneliness, and emptiness.
Cognition - odd thinking, unusual perceptions, non-delusional paranoia
Impulse action patterns - substance abuse/dependence, sexual deviance, manipulative suicidal gestures
Interpersonal relationships - intolerance of aloneness; abandonment, engulfment, annihilation fears, counterdependency, stormy relationships, manipulativeness, demanding, entitlement
People with BPD are often bright, witty, funny, life of the party.
They may have problems with object constancy. Often, they want to keep something belonging to a loved one around during separations.
They frequently have difficulty tolerating aloneness, even for short periods of time.
Their lives may be a chaotic landscape of job losses, interrupted educational pursuits, broken engagements, hospitalizations.
Many have a background of childhood physical, sexual, or emotional abuse or physical/emotional neglect.

Treatment Options:

Psychotherapy - used to help people learn new coping skills and emotional regulation.
Hospitalization - intensive medication therapy in conjunction with psychotherapy sessions. (this method is rarely appropriate for long-term care of BPD patients.)
Medications - antipsychotic drug therapy may be useful for brief reactive psychoses , neuroleptics may be helpful for disorganized thinking and some psychotic symptoms, anti-depressants & anti-anxiety agents may be appropriate at certain times
Self-Help - encouraging people with BPD to gain additional social support is an important aspect of treatment.

If you feel that you, or a loved one, meet the criteria for this disorder, I encourage you to contact your local healthcare provider or psychiatric professional for more assistance with this diagnosis.

More information about this disorder may be found at:

NIMH - http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

&
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/bpd.html

Wishing you good health & good luck!

"Knights" in Shining Armor

2008-12-20T12:50:00.003-07:00

Thank you to all those "Knights" in shining armor out there! You do wonderful work and have a very special place in this community!

If you haven't heard about them...here's the info. It's a group called Knights of Columbus. Members of this awesome group assist disabled and needy families in acquiring medical equipment and supplies. And all at no cost to the families! This truly is the "pay it forward" idea at work. Much of the equipment is donated to the Knights and then is loaned out to families as needed...for as long as needed. All they ask in return for the supplies and equipment is for the family to return the equipment when they are finished using it, so that it might be re-donated to someone else in need.

So, if you have any medical equipment needs, contact your local Knights of Columbus chapter. Or if you have medical equipment or supplies that you or your loved one no longer need or use, then feel free to go ahead and donate it to the Knights and keep the good karma going!

Christmas Countdown

2008-12-19T08:42:00.002-07:00

I can't believe there is less than a week until Christmas!!! There is still so much to get done...treats to bake, gifts to buy, wrap & deliver! I just hope the weather cooperates for just a few more days so I can get everything done.

Here's to finishing up last minute tasks!

Good News

2008-12-18T13:11:00.005-07:00

This is the second day in a row that I have gotten good news. Since things typically happen in multiples of three...I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings! Yay for Happy Holidays!

Lyrical

2008-12-17T11:49:00.003-07:00

Music is a way of life for many of us. We use it as a soundtrack for our lives, background noise for studying, meditation, relaxation, dancing, during celebrations and ceremonies, and just for fun. With so many different varieties of music out there...how can one choose just one category or type to enjoy?!

Given the fact that it's Christmas time...the usual Holiday music has been playing around the house. I love the classics...Carol of The Bells, Silent Night, Joy To The World, We Three Kings, God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen. Then there are the obligatory Christmas movie soundtrack songs...Rudolph, Frosty The Snowman, Holly Jolly Christmas. Anyway, this list could go on FOREVER! Most of these songs bring back some great Holiday memories!

Have you ever taken the time to really listen to the lyrics of a favorite song? Many times lyrics speak to us on several different levels. It is not often that one gets to sit down and ask their favorite musician what exactly they were writing about when they jotted down that favorite tune about love, hate, anger, or laughter. So, we often create a meaning for ourselves. A song's lyrics may speak to you about your current life situation, your past, your feelings, your future, hopes, dreams, or fears. Whatever meaning a song & it's lyrics have for you, keep singing along & enjoy the music.

Here are some random lyrics that caught my attention:

"I'm doing the best I ever did, I'm doing the best that I can, I'm doing the best I ever did, Now go away!" ~ Godsmack "Whatever"
"Who are you-and what do you do, that makes you think you are above me, but have you walked in my shoes, the pedestal, you put yourself on, well since I'm breaking it down now, it's gonna collapse and be gone" ~ Fergie "Pedestal"
"You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away and know when to run." ~ Kenny Rogers "The Gambler"

"Who are you to wave your finger? Ya' must have been out your head..." "Soapbox, house of cards, and glass, so don't go tossin' your stones around." ~ Tool "The Pot"

"Seems like nowadays, ain't nothin' meant to last. One day you've got it all, and then it disappears so fast." ~ Jonny Lang "A Quitter Never Wins"

"We're kissing without kissing...got it down to a fine art. Love's supposed to keep you young and frisky...we grew up and wide apart." ~ Imogen Heap "Loose Ends"

"Can't talk to a psycho like a normal human being." ~ Poe "Trigger Happy Jack"

Well, those are some lyrics I like. Feel free to share your favorites!

Have a musical day!

Santa Rampage!

2008-12-15T15:02:00.006-07:00

My sister convinced me to join her at the Santa Rampage this year. What?! You don't know what Santa Rampage is?! Bores out there might look at it as just another Holiday pub crawl...but it's oh so much more! Just imagine...Holiday cheer, smiles, laughter, and everywhere you look...SANTA! (or a Bumble, elf, snowflake, or oddly enough...a menorah!)

Among all the costumes, a few caught my eye...or just made me laugh hysterically! Like my favorite DJ Bumble...
The star was classic! And thanks for letting me check out the DJ equipment...even though it was only your second time on stage and you didn't have VINYL. You did great...and kept the place ROCKIN'!

Another noted fan favorite was the Granny in Guess jeans...your dance moves were amazing! Hahahahahaha!
I'm sure there will be more pictures arriving soon, but for now enjoy these. I'm sure this will be a new family tradition...at least for my sis and me! We had a blast...even though she lost the batteries out of her camera when it decided to rock out on the dance floor.
Merry Christmas Everyone!!!!

Christmas Baking Day

2008-12-08T17:36:00.003-07:00

We had a Christmas Baking Day this weekend...wow....that's all I can say. Cramming 3 bossy women into a tiny kitchen with boiling liquids, sticky mixes, and gooey messes...not the greatest idea ever. But we sure had fun! Although we didn't make everything on all of our lists, we did get plenty of treats made.

I suppose it didn't help that we were doubling or tripling each recipe so that we had enough for each of us to take home. I ended up with 3 pans of caramel that still needs to be cut & wrapped! Some of the bon bons still need to be dipped since they weren't quite set up & we ran out of dipping chocolate.

Completed Projects: dipped pretzels, bon-bons, caramels, divinity, and peanut blossom cookies. Yum!

Casualties: 1 small burn to my right arm, 1 plastic measuring spoon eaten by the garbage disposal, a few cookies consumed by the hungry chefs, and some bon bon filling sneakily eaten by 1 particular chef (you know who you are!)

Thank you to the eager dogs who gave us so much entertainment & distraction during the long, intense baking. And thanks to the rat who so generously donated to our comedic interludes! All in all it turned out to be a pretty productive day!

Depression

2008-12-02T21:40:00.003-07:00

With the gloomy days of winter approaching, I thought I would share some serious information today. Many people suffer from depression, chronic or situational...some experience SAD (seasonal affective disorder). So for those of you out there who experience depression or have a loved one dealing with depression...this information is dedicated to you.

Signs & Symptoms:

constant feelings of sadness, irritability or tension
decreased interest or pleasure in usual activities or hobbies
loss of energy, feeling tired despite lack of activity
a change in appetite, with significant weight loss or gain
a change in sleeping patterns, such as difficulty sleeping, early morning awakening, or sleeping too much
restlessness or feeling slowed down
decreased ability to make decisions or concentrate
feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness or guilt
thought of suicide or death

If you, or a loved one are experiencing any/ or several of these symptoms it would be wise to contact a healthcare professional.

If you, or a loved one are in an immediate serious crisis: please contact your healthcare professional or go to your local hospital/emergency room - or ask a friend or family member to help you do these things.

You can also call the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) to talk to a trained counselor 24/7.

Please remember mental health illnesses can be just as debilitating as any other medical condition and may require medication, treatment, rehabilitation services and ongoing supportive therapy.

Hopefully this information was helpful. If nothing else, it gave you something to read for a few minutes during your day.

Stay safe & ask for help when needed!

Yay For Anime!

2008-11-26T15:30:00.003-07:00

I thought I would bring you all a little anime in today's post! So, I found this particular character several years ago while exploring Seattle, WA.

Meet Tilochi Moyoko:

Not sure exactly what her storyline is, but she's cute!

Morbid Creativity

2008-11-25T17:27:00.004-07:00

Ok, so I know I'm a bit morbid at times. I find myself intrigued by the crime shows. I am often found watching First 48 - real homicide investigations. The forensic research fascinates me and I am often amazed at how ruthless humanity can be.

With that said...as I was wandering through some random photos online today, I ran across this little piece of art:

It made me wonder...what causes someone to set up a mini death scene in a doll house and then photograph it?

First, there is the artistic approach...a little art project. I'm sure we have all taken weird, random photos and found the hidden artist within ourselves.

Or maybe, they were recreating a scene from a recent crime show series...perhaps after watching an episode, someone decided to play CSI and set up their own mini crime scene.

Or perhaps, the scene was just happened upon by an innocent bystander after a child finished playing with the doll house.

Well, whatever the reasoning behind the creation of this piece...it makes the mind wonder. I never really imagined turning a childhood doll house into a murder mystery/crime scene arena. But, to each their own!

Let the morbid creativity continue!
~Vix

2008-11-24T08:14:00.002-07:00

What exactly defines love?

Is it a feeling?

Is it a state of mind?

Well, however you choose to define it, I hope that everyone out there experiences some form of love in their lifetime.

~Peace, Love & Respect~
Vix

Making Lemonade

2008-11-20T05:51:00.002-07:00

"Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." ~A. Linkletter

Don't let the ups and downs of life become a roller coaster ride, just set your sails and let the undulating waves relax you. And while your at it, make some lemonade out of those lemons!

Inspiration

2008-11-17T14:55:00.003-07:00

"After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul;
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child
And learn to build all your roads
On today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much.
So plant your own garden and decorate
Your own soul, instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn...
With every goodbye you learn."
~ J. Hays '87

Let Your Light Shine Bright...

2008-11-14T08:07:00.002-07:00

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

~Marianne Williamson (as quoted by Nelson Mandela - 1994)

Shell of a Being?

2008-11-11T22:23:00.003-07:00

Why is it that when we age we seem to be viewed by younger generations as useless? Do they not realize that we learned all those lessons before they were even thought of & that is how we have made it this far in life?

I saw a patient of mine today & his current environment truly saddened me. To be left in a solitary room with dim lighting, stark walls, & nothing but the noise from the hall to keep you company...what an existence! Does no one think he's still alive in there somewhere? Just because he does not speak to us in language that we always understand clearly does not mean that he is less of a human than if he could interact "normally!"

We do not cease to be human, nor do we cease needing caring people around us once we cease to communicate with the "outside world." In fact, we probably need those caring people to surround us more than ever.

Just because someone does not speak in a language you can understand, do not forget to respond in a language that is unmistakable...love!

Peace & Love
~Vix

Happy Birthday!

2008-11-07T12:13:00.001-07:00

Happy Birthday to my Honey...better known as "T"! Hope your day is special!

Movin' On Up!

2008-11-06T22:15:00.002-07:00

Like many before me, I have decided to exchange the 'ol MySpace drama for Blogger. Here you will find my random rantings, various views & fabulous photos! Hopefully you will enjoy it, but if not...no worries, I'm not here to please the world. As the great Dr. Suess once said "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."